I don’t know what’s worse, living with people when you have your own family or living with you in-laws. For me they both are horrible, but the in-laws definitely puts the icing on the cake! Don’t get me wrong they are very nice people and I am grateful that they are allowing me stay in their home, but they just drive me insane!
We just are just totally not on the same page on things, and I feel like I can’t say much because they are not my parents and they letting live in their house. The biggest conflict we have with each other is they don’t know their boundaries as a grandparent and not a parent. I know they mean well but they really need to understand that I am Xavier’s mother and Pedro is Xavier’s father, not them!
Yes, my boyfriend and I are young. Yes, this is our fist child, but this is something we have to learn between me and him. Sometimes, he might me stress and be clueless, but we are parents and we will not anything happen to our child. Just like any other fist parent, we will learn on our way. But they don’t understand that and they just undermine us as parents.
The worst thing they could have ever told me is that I need to compromise with them and, in a way, co-parent with them. WHAT?! Co-parent with my in-laws?! Last time I checked, me and Pedro made Xavier, not me, Pedro, and his whole family! So why in the world would I need to co-parent with anyone else but Pedro?! My boyfriend and I have told them time and again that they need to step back and let us parent, but I really don’t think it is going to happen.
It has been 21 months and I’m still feeling like I need to co-parent with them. Which is the most annoying feeling in the world, and no one should feel that way with their in-laws. I don’t think this will ever change or get better, so the only thing I feel I can do is just to get out of here. Even though they want us to stay, and it might be a struggle with us living on our own, but at least it will keep my sanity!